The Self-Sabotage of Control

On a rollercoaster ride, would you be one of those tightly gripping on with a face taut with fear or one of those whose arms are up in the air while smiling wide with excitement? This powerful image is a great reminder that the only control we have is how we’ll respond to the ride called Life.

Indeed, we have all experienced that things don’t always go the way we want them to. People turn out different to how we imagine them and life just doesn’t meet our expectations. When the going gets tough, it’s easy to get caught up in all the happening. We identify with the situation, get overwhelmed by emotion and wonder what to do to make things “better”.

But is it easier to take charge of yourself or of everything else around you?

When you try to control others or a situation, you will experience endless struggle. By expressing the vibration of resistance, lack or that something or someone is not good enough as is, the law of attraction will ensure that this is indeed your reality.

But when you are able to control your thoughts and emotions, or rather, your reactions to them, you will be a master of your life and experience it with ease, no matter the situation.

Life has ups and downs and unexpected turns that sometimes leave you quite breathless. Anxiety may become your constant companion because tightly gripping the bar just won’t make it go your way. But if you surrender to its inevitable flow, you can feel the exhilaration of the ride.

Surrender is not for the weak or fearful; it is for those who have courage. Courage to let life carry them in its course. Courage to wholeheartedly experience the unknown adventure with freedom and joy! Fear and courage are merely two polar ends on a scale of the same vibration – just amp up the volume dial!

To surrender does not mean becoming a passive spectator as life unfolds around you. It means feeling at ease with whatever happens, trusting it is running its perfect course, and being able to truly live, moment by moment.

Photography: Fritz Photography

Writing: Melanie Drury